You want to meet a girl

Good day man,

I’m a bit sick today (aren’t we all?) hehe but physically I mean.

And I had some time to think about you.

You’ve been into personal development for years and overcame many challenges that life has given you.

But there is this one area, when it comes to women, where you’re still stuck.

You see a girl, and even though you know she’s beautiful, you don’t approach her (which is a crime btw and I’ll tell you why in a moment).

Watching more videos and memorizing different pick-up lines is not getting you there.

Because though it feels helpful, it’s also what is causing you to overthink.

A few weeks ago I hosted a live dating bootcamp in Vienna

I’m out with a student, let’s call him M, and he’s approaching.

Only, he isn’t.

He’s talked with a couple girls, but it’s very platonic and he’s not letting her know that he finds her beautiful.

This is how he spent most of his life

Holding back, pretending to be a friend and then regretting it when he gets back home.

As his coach, I’m growing tired of seeing him hide his intention.

So before the next approach, we sit down and do an inner journey.

It’s only for a few minutes

But the fact that we handled this in real time changed the course of the next approach

Originally he thought that he held back because he feared what other people would think of him

But boy is he in for a surprise

He meets a part of himself that he had long forgotten and buried down since childhood

This part has been trying to get his attention, but been ignored

So it retreated into the depths of his being

And with this important part of himself gone, he feels a lack, a hole

and this is painful!

So for the last decades he’s been looking to fill that hole outside himself with distractions like weed and video games

and more recently

the approval from girls

because if a girl would show that she liked him

then finally he would feel good enough.

Can you see how much pressure that he brought to every interaction with a girl?

No wonder he was overthinking his way out of even trying.

For the next approach, everything changed.

He opens his eyes, and for the first moment that evening, he feels calm.

He looks around and there is some emotion that comes up.

I’m used to this happening, so I support him, helping him feel safe enough to feel that even though there are people walking by (I don’t really care about this anymore myself) it’s okay to feel what he is feeling.

We look at each other, smile, then catch the eyes of two girls sitting nearby.

He knows exactly what to do, so he gets up and walks towards them.

Let’s just say that I felt proud that evening.

Cool story bro, but what about me? You say

Well, how is that different?

Both of you have worked on yourself for years already.

You’re much further than you think.

It’s just that you have pushed the finish line so far ahead that even though you already reached goal after goal, you still think you need to do more.

That’s the trap.

That’s why Redpill content can be so toxic.

It’s just causing you to overthink and doubt yourself.

Approaching is simple.

See girl → Say hi

I’ll let you in on a secret.

Most girls would be happy about sharing your company.

That’s why it’s a crime.

Your presence is a gift, but unless you go for it, nobody benefits.

So, let me give you something.

I want you to think about this today:

If you made an exact copy of yourself, would you introduce him to a girl you like?

If no, why not?

At what time would you introduce him?

When will he be ready?

Will he ever be ready?

Think about that tonight when you brush your teeth, when you go to bed and when you wake up tomorrow morning.

See you later,

Edin