Why therapy won't fix your dating problems

Hey man,

Morning, sparkling water, and I get to write a potential life-transforming letter to you.

I’m telling you—life is good.

But it wasn’t always like this.

I was depressed, never felt good enough, and always wanted more of what I couldn’t get.

Therapy helped—but not at the level I needed, especially not in dating.

Why?

Because while it feels good to talk, the real reason you’re stuck is deeper:

Some emotion—fear, guilt, shame—is stuck in your body. Not just your mind.

It hijacks your presence when you want to approach her. It makes you freeze. It makes you say something awkward, even when you know better.

Talking about it won’t release it.

That’s why you can leave a therapist’s office feeling “better,” but still… nothing changes.

Yesterday, we went deeper.

My student and I got to the root: guilt around desiring women and sex. A fear that expressing that would make women uncomfortable.

So what happened?

We didn’t just talk. We felt. Moved through it. Released it.

A few moments later, he approached a woman confidently—on his own. No hesitation. No panic. Just presence.

🛠 Why it works (in plain English):

• That fear or guilt you feel? It’s stuck in your body, not your head.

• When you connect to it instead of avoiding it, your nervous system calms down.

• Instead of freezing or panicking, you stay grounded—even when a silence arises.

• From that place, approaching doesn’t feel forced. It feels natural.

This isn’t woo. It’s biology.
Unfelt emotion keeps you stuck. Felt emotion sets you free.

Here’s a live 2-minute demo from our session yesterday. Use it to drop into your own practice and feel this shift for yourself:

See you tomorrow,
Edin