Why some men attract women

Hey man,

this is going to sting a bit.

You see a girl you like and you hesitate to approach her.

Another guy sees her and she becomes attracted to him.

How do you overcome this hesitation so she becomes attracted to you instead?

First, nothing is wrong with you, it’s just a belief in your mind that needs an update.

Because the hesitation starts long before you actually see her.

Today you think that your desire is bad, and that if you showed it to her she would get angry, others would get angry and you would get hurt.

How do I know this?

Because I’ve helped over 10 students overcome it.

And more importantly, I’ve had it myself.

My first ever memory in this life is actually one where my mother shamed me for my sexual desire.

I was about 3 years old and I’m on the ground humping my teddy bear.

Yes, humping my teddy bear.

She comes into my room and… “Edin, what are you doing?” in an upset voice.

I’m sure she didn’t mean to shame me, but my child brain understood that this is bad because whenever my mother was upset, I wanted to fix it.

And the quickest way to fix this upset?

Stop humping the teddy bear (which essentially meant stop expressing that sexual desire).

Fast forward to my teenage years and I’m still not expressing my sexual desire.

Seeing other guys hook up with the girls in class that I liked, but when my opportunity was there I would avoid it like the plague.

It sucked and I would regret these moments for years.

Eventually, I changed.

It took a lot of work because I didn’t know what the problem was. I thought there was something wrong with me and I studied pickup.

It actually did a lot of harm because I kept seeing women as objects for sex and my own validation.

Not all women, but the ones that I wanted to sleep with.

I’d pick her up, take her home and after once or a few times I got what I wanted so I dumped her.

Not good for spiritual growth!

So pickup is not the way, then what is?

Changing your belief.

Today you believe that by resisting the desire you will feel safe. But it’s the opposite. By resisting it, you leave your calm body and go up to the active mind.

Having all your attention in your mind makes it difficult to feel grounded and be present because your mind keeps making up stories that takes you away from the moment. So you’re not feeling safe, and neither is she! That’s why you get rejected.

Instead, I’ve found that by expressing your desire, though it initially feels uncomfortable has a totally different effect.

You feel more in your body = More present = More safe and relaxed

So she feels more safe and relaxed around you

Now the natural attraction (did you check out the video from the last e-mail?) flows between you.

And that’s how you become the guy she is attracted to.

Any questions, let me know.

Thanks for deciding to become a better man,

Edin