Why overthinking kills connection

Hey man,

Yesterday brought two moments that could’ve gone very differently:

💬 A call with a guy who wanted my help
👀 A cute girl I met and vibed with

Sounds great, right?

But what if I told you that both of those moments used to stress me the hell out?

Back in the day, I’d show up with a heavy need to win—to make the guy say yes, to get the girl to like me. And that pressure? It always backfired.

I’d overthink. I’d hesitate. And I’d end up either saying the wrong thing or not saying anything at all.

Maybe you know the feeling:

• You see a girl you’re drawn to, but your mind starts spinning: “What do I say?” “What if she rejects me?”

• Or maybe you finally approach—but your energy is tight, in your head, not grounded.

• Then later, you spiral into self-attack: “Why didn’t I just relax and go for it?”

Sound familiar?

That was me—until I realized the root problem wasn’t the rejection.
It was attachment to the outcome.

Yesterday’s guy was successful with women, but still stuck. Why?

Because every interaction was loaded with FOMO.
Even when he met someone great, he was already wondering “What if there’s someone better?”

When I tried to explain how I could help, I felt myself falling into the same old trap—overcomplicating, trying too hard, doubting.

So I stopped.
I took a breath.
And I said, “Let’s pick this back up tomorrow.”

Why? Because that pause gave me space to reconnect with my grounded self.

Later it hit me:
I’ve been that guy. I’ve lived in that FOMO, that spiral of trying to control things so I wouldn’t feel discomfort.

But you can’t build real confidence on a foundation of control.
You build it on presence.
On letting go of needing the result.

The same applies with women.

The moment you release the pressure to “win,” your body relaxes.
You breathe deeper.
You speak with more ease.
And suddenly… she feels you.

That’s the difference between chasing and attracting.

So next time you're about to approach someone—or you’re already mid-convo and feel the tension spike—ask yourself:

👉 “Am I here with her… or in my head about what I want from her?”
👉 “Can I enjoy this moment, even if it goes nowhere?”
👉 “Do I need this… or am I enough already?”

If you can take just one breath and recalibrate, everything changes.

That's what we do inside Raw Authenticity—build the kind of grounded confidence that isn't shaken by someone else's response.

You're not here to perform.
You're here to express who you truly are—without fear, without pressure, without losing your center.

And when you do that...
Women feel it.
People feel it.
You feel it.

Talk soon,
Edin

PS: Oh—and the girl? She first offered me her Instagram. I told her I don’t really use IG that much.
She paused.
Then gave me her number.
Today, she texted me first. Let’s see where it goes 😏