Why 99% of guys

Hey man,

I had a lovely time at the beach yesterday.

Now let’s continue the story about Dan.

He was like you.

He would see a girl, think that he should do something and then overthink…

and then she’s gone.

That’s when the real shitstorm started.

Because he would go HARD on himself.

Like, if he would’ve told these things to another human being…he’d get attacked lol

but still he did it to himself.

Why is that?

Because when he was young, he had acted in a way where he got told by his parents to stop.

To keep himself down.

And because he was just a child, he did…

but as he grew up, his inner child kept being pushed down.

And the child doesn’t like it, so it throws tantrums in the form of unpleasant emotions.

Which feels uncomfortable, so he did the easiest thing which was to start overthinking as a response.

Another way to avoid this pain is to get hooked on social media, weed or porn.

All in a way to escape it.

But when we were working together, he started to meet this part of himself with compassion instead of avoidance.

And one day, it all changed.

He was ready to leave his house and approach some women.

He felt the anxiety and fear creep up, but he said that he would do it no matter what and he would hold himself through it.

No matter the result.

No performance. Just presence and compassion for himself

And that’s when it started

He cried

He put on music, danced

and when he went out

It was all effortless

30 years of trauma, gone

To this day, he still feels the same relief

Here’s a video of him explaining it

You see, it’s not even about the girl

She just triggers the insecurity within you

That’s why pushing through with the typical “Just do it bro” advice doesn’t work

It takes conscious inner work to overcome unconscious inner resistance

And when you do, the inner critic is replaced with silence

So meeting a girl feels natural, not forced

If this sounds interesting, then do this:

When you catch yourself in that moment of wanting to put on a mask

ask yourself

“If I didn’t need to achieve any particular result, how would I show up?”

See you tomorrow,

(I’m off to the city center to record some content)

Edin