What if your hesitation isn’t about her at all?

Hey man,

Your body and mind work in miraculous ways.

Especially when it comes to growth and self-discovery, there’s a strange paradox—we resist the very thing that would set us free.

Sounds crazy, right? But your mind will always try to keep you "safe"—even if that means keeping you stuck.

Let me explain…

For years, I’ve had this urge to pee come up randomly throughout the day.

It felt stronger than normal, so I went to doctors, even a urologist (that was one expensive visit)—but they all said nothing was wrong.

So, I figured it must be psychological.

One day, I was meditating when the urge hit me again. It was strong.

My mind started screaming: "I have to pee!"

But I knew my bladder wasn’t full. This wasn’t physical—it was resistance.

I decided to sit with it.

At first, it got even more intense. My body tensed up. My mind panicked. But instead of fighting it, I relaxed into it.

Suddenly, my body started moving, and sounds came out—sounds that, well… could be misinterpreted.

And that’s when the shame hit.

💭 "What if my housemate hears me?"
💭 "What if he thinks I’m doing something else?"

Right there—that was the moment.

The same moment YOU face when you hesitate before talking to a girl.

The moment when your mind tries to protect you from discomfort.

If you’ve ever hesitated to approach a girl because of fear…

Or held yourself back from expressing what you really feel…

That’s the exact same resistance I felt in this moment.

Most guys think their biggest fear is rejection.

It’s not.

The real fear is sitting with uncomfortable emotions—feeling them fully instead of escaping.

This is why no amount of dating tips, tactics, or “confidence hacks” ever work long-term.

Because until you stop avoiding discomfort, you’ll always hesitate.

I took a deep breath.

I told myself: "I'm safe. I'm fine."

And then suddenly—everything shifted.

- My body relaxed.
- The tension disappeared.
- I didn’t feel the urge to pee anymore.

But more importantly…

I felt present. Safe. Authentic

I wasn’t caught in my head, overanalyzing. I was just here, in my body.

And if my housemate made fun of me for making weird noises? I wouldn’t even care.

What uncomfortable emotion are you resisting right now?

The hesitation before you approach…
The fear of rejection…
That inner voice telling you, “I’m not good enough.”

What if instead of avoiding it, you sat with it?

Because the more you allow yourself to feel tension, the more confident and free you become.

This is what Raw Authenticity is all about. 

Let me know—what’s the discomfort you’ve been avoiding?

Hit reply and tell me.

- Edin