What I wished

Hey man,

I just did a deep anger release—beating the sh*t out of a pillow for five minutes and journaling whatever came up.

Highly recommend. Surprisingly powerful.

Afterwards, I sat on the balcony to integrate the experience… and I thought of you.

Because there’s one thing I wish someone told me earlier—something I now teach my students, and something that’s changed everything for me in dating.

Here it is:

I overthink.
A lot.
All the time, actually.

And if you’re like most of the guys I work with—conscious, introspective, maybe into meditation—you probably do too.

That’s not a bad thing. Our minds are sharp. They protect us, help us grow, and let us master whatever we put our focus on.

But it cuts both ways.

Because the same mind that helps you grow… also talks you out of the moments you want to lean into.

Like approaching that girl.

You know the drill:

“She’s not my type.”
“I don’t have time.”
“She looks busy.”

And yeah—those all feel true.
But truthfully? They're fear, dressed as logic.

That’s not a thinking problem.
That’s a feeling problem.

And you can’t solve that emotionally hijacked moment with “just do it” logic.

So what can you trust?

Not your emotions. Not your fear.

But data.

(Side note: Not date. Though with the right data, you’ll get plenty of those.)

I know it’s a bit geeky—and it might kill a little of the magic—but 95% magic + action beats 0% magic and regret.

So here’s the practical:

The Weekly Check-In: The A/N/D/L System

Every Sunday (first day of the week—solar vibes), I track:

S - A: N: D: L:
M - A: N: D: L:
… and so on.

A = Approaches
N = Numbers
D = Dates
L = Lays

Then I total it all up.

Last week for me looked like this:
A: 25 | N: 6 | D: 2 | L: 0

No sugarcoating. Just truth. Just reps.

Why does this matter?

Because data doesn’t lie.

→ If you approached 2 girls last week and don’t have a date, it’s not the universe… it’s the numbers.
→ If you approached 20 and got 0 numbers, your approach likely needs adjusting.

I recommend shooting for 20 approaches/week.

Once you’ve got momentum, that should turn into 2-3 dates per week. (You might even crush that. Just being real.)

That’s it.

It’s simple, it works, and it quiets the overthinking faster than any mindset hack.

And if the real problem is you’re not even getting those 20 reps in…

Then you don’t have a dating issue.
You have an avoidance pattern.

Let’s fix that.

👇

P.S. If you’ve been holding back, stuck in analysis mode, or just not taking action—I’d love to support you.

Here’s how:

1-on-1 Coaching

If you're ready to stop overthinking and start embodying the man you know you are, I still have a spot open.

✔️ We’ll dissolve the fear
✔️ Rewire your self-talk
✔️ And build unshakable confidence through action and presence

Interested?

You can read more about it here.

Or just reply with “1:1” and I’ll send you the details.

Talk soon,
Edin