Today I was boxing with a guy

Hey man,

Cold approaching a girl can feel scary because of the fear of rejection.

Say you master the courage to go up, and get hit with a “thank you, but no thank you”.

It really stings.

Because of our childhood, we even question, for a moment, if we are worthy of love, when this happens.

Well, today I found the glitch that reduces your chance of being rejected, and it was during the boxing training.

First round

I’ve never sparred against him before. He’s tall, has a long reach and tattoos all over his arms and legs. He also seems confident. A bit intimidating, you could say.

As we start, he keeps hitting me with jabs. I try to avoid, but I cannot. Shot after shot, I keep getting hit, and it feels frustrating!

The clock rings and it’s time for a minute break. Here is where it gets interesting. 

My first instinct is to start self-attacking

You know, the thoughts that goes like

“Man, this was so bad”

“I can’t do this”

“I’m not worthy”

But, because of the inner work I’ve done (and because I recently watched a pro boxing fight) I know that losing a round doesn’t mean a loss - but time for calibration.

I think to myself

“How can I improve in the next round? What is one or two things I can do which will make it a little better?”

Ask and you shall receive

I get an idea, and as the bell rings — I’m ready.

Second round

He starts off confident, but quickly notices that something is different.

I’ve adjusted my approach, and now instead of being hit, I dodge and hit back.

Again and again.

So much so that after the round, he has to take a longer break.

Victory!

Did you see the similarities to cold approaching?

Yeah?

Cool man, so when you go up to a girl this weekend, don’t put so much importance on the first approach.

Be okay with failing, because then you can calibrate. Just like I did after the first round.

Then, when you see the next girl, you make that adjustment which will give you an even better result.

Then, you keep on calibrating until you get the result that you want.

It sounds simple, but it’s not easy.

During this journey, you’ll face obstacles that has stayed with you so long that it’s just something that “you’ve always done”.

Maybe that’s the fear of rejection which leads to hesitation and losing out on an opportunity to meet a cute girl

Which is likely because of your childhood experience, and because it’s so deep, it’s difficult to just forget about it and get the external results that you want.

That’s why I’ve created Raw Authenticity, and inside the program you learn how to integrate these experiences so that they don’t stop you.

Because by removing the self-doubt you’re discovering something that no one can take away from you which is your Authentic Confidence.

It’s a type of confidence that propels you into following your excitement, wether that’s starting a conversation with the cute girl on the metro, or start working on creating your dream life.

Like I did with quitting the job and deciding to travel the world while working on my passion.

It’s not a way of forcing you do anything, rather it’s about discovering what you want and then removing the obstacles to getting you there.

It’s natural.

It’s authentic.

And if you want to join me on this journey, then just reply to this e-mail and we’ll have a chat.

Have a good weekend,

Edin