The two ways of getting a date

Hey man,

There are two ways I’ve found to meet a girl you like for a date.

The first one is called pushing, meaning you continue going until you manage.

Here’s an example

A few years ago I was going home from work.

I didn’t feel social, but I told myself I’d approach some girls.

I walk up to a girl, say hi, but the conversation feels forced and she says she needs to go.

A couple more approaches like this happens.

I’ve been walking for an hour now. There is a girl next to me. I go up, say hi and we chat, but I don’t feel good at all. She doesn’t seem to like it either and tells me she wants to read her book.

Now I really feel like it’s going bad.

I’ve approached like 10 girls up to this point and not even a single good conversation.

I go home.

At the front door, when i’m about to open it, a cute girl walks by.

“Well, might as well do one more..”

I go up.

She loves it.

I take her on an instant date.

We end up dating for months.

The second way

I’m on an Eckhart Tolle retreat. It’s evening time and we’re about 150 people around a campfire.

This evening I decided to let go of trying to meet a girl, and just have fun chatting and being social with people.

Anyways I end up freestyle rapping in front of everyone, and afterwards a girl comes up to me.

We end up having a thing for the rest of the days during the retreat.

So the moral of the story is that you can push your way to goal. Spam-approach and eventually you will find someone.

Or you can focus on having fun and being social, and someone can magically appear. Of course, you need to learn the basics of leading in order for something to happen between you.

Today, I take the balanced approach.

I go about my day and if I see someone I like, I’ll go up. This helps me stay in the good energy of the second way while taking opportunities from the first one.

Stay empowered,

Edin