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The real reason you shouldn't approach her
Hey man,
I know what you might be thinking:
“Wait… now Edin’s telling me not to approach?”
Yep.
But not because approaching is wrong.
It’s because why you approach might be the real problem.
Let me ask you something honest:
Why do you want to approach her?
I used to go after girls because deep down, I felt I wasn’t enough.
And I thought, “If I can sleep with enough women… maybe I’ll finally feel good about myself.”
But here’s the truth I had to face:
I wasn’t approaching from desire — I was approaching from guilt.
“If I don’t do it, I’m weak.”
“If I miss this chance, I’ll regret it forever.”
“If I don’t go for the kiss, I’m failing.”
Every time I didn’t take action, I spiraled.
Regret. Guilt. Shame. For months.
And the worst part?
I was not even so interested in many of these girls.
I just thought I had to — or else I was failing.
Sound familiar?
If you're nodding right now, good. That means you're ready for a better way.
✅ The Shift That Changed Everything:
Instead of beating myself up after a “missed opportunity”...
I started doing something radically different:
Compassion.
Sounds soft? It’s not.
It’s the only thing that actually broke the spiral — so I stopped chasing, stopped spiraling, and started feeling proud of how I showed up.
Now?
I only approach when I genuinely want to — not out of fear.
I feel good even when I walk away.
I don’t waste energy overanalyzing every interaction.
And ironically… I attract more women than ever before.
That’s the freedom I want for you too.
🎁 Here’s your next step:
I created a 15-minute guided meditation that trains this exact muscle — so you stop beating yourself up and start leading from truth.
It’s the same one my students use to finally feel free from guilt-based action.
Get the meditation here → [LINK]
Practice it.
Let it rewire you.
You’ll know it’s working when you see a beautiful girl and feel peace — not pressure.
To real freedom,
– Edin
PS:
My 1-on-1 coaching is now closed.
If you were considering it, don’t stress — I’ll reopen spots later this year.
Until then, start with the meditation. It’s where everything shifts.