The fear of leading a girl

My brother,

glad to have you here because outside it’s pouring.

I also heard about some critical storms in the US, so if you are safe where you are, let’s feel grateful for that.

Leading a girl, meaning to go first, can feel scary.

Not only leading a girl but taking the leadership role in any situation

like Gollum, when he leads Frodo to Mordor

or you at the office when you want to ask people to join you for lunch.

Why is it scary, and how can you turn it into a superpower?

The reason it’s scary is because by going first, you are setting yourself up for rejection.

If you stay safe and comfortable, nobody will say no and you won’t feel rejected.

That will feel comfortable, but beware, my fellow adventurer, because comfort is not your friend.

(I’m not saying eating a big bag of chips (and dip) on the couch in front of the TV watching Lord of the Rings is not amazing and an important part of life)

Of course not, but in my experience, it’s most fulfilling when you choose to be comfortable out of love, instead of fear. 

In the situation, you are with her, and you are curious if she likes you too,

but to find that out you would have to take the first step, you will feel fear

and that’s great.

It’s your guide to tell you exactly where you need to go.

She could take the step for you, but then she would step into her masculine, and that would ruin your attraction for each other.

You wouldn’t want her to tell you

“Alright boy, pack your bags and trust me because I’ve figured out everything for tonight, I want you to hold my hand and follow my lead because I’m going to tell you what to do and what not to do. This is going to be great and later I’m going to bend you over”

but in contrast, she would love to hear you say that.

So the obstacle is overcoming this fear of rejection, which is the reason why you’re hesitating with leading.

And because I truly love and care about you as a fellow brother on this journey, I will share with you how.

I’ve made a simple process that will
- help you overcome the fear of rejection
- help you no longer be needy
- increase your confidence in social situations

and because you’ve been following along until now,

I’ll give it to you for free

Just reply to this E-mail and I’ll send it over.

TO MORDOR!

Edin