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Hey man,

Ever notice how easy it is to fall into distraction?

Scrolling on Instagram.
Swiping.
Even chasing girls.

At first it seems harmless—fun, even.
But if you’re honest, you’ll probably notice something deeper underneath:

👉 You’re not just filling time.
You’re avoiding something.

And if you haven’t yet shifted from self-attack to self-love,
then those distractions tend to spiral into shame.
“Why am I like this?”
“Why can’t I just take action?”
“Why do I always mess this up?”

Suddenly, you're not just wasting time.
You're draining energy… and confidence.

So how do we break the cycle?

A wise man once said:
“Don’t focus on the addiction. Look at the pain.”

Ask Yourself:

What am I distracting myself from?

It might seem abstract at first—especially if your mind is spinning.
But here’s your reminder: The answer isn’t in your head.

Let Me Tell You a Quick Story…

I was supposed to meet a girl for a date.
She canceled last minute. (Dick move, I know.)

Part of me didn’t want the night to go to waste.
So I got dressed anyway, walked to the park where we were supposed to meet…
and tried to “make something happen.”

I took a selfie.
Saw two girls. Approached.
We talked—but it felt off. Forced. Unnatural.

I left, sat on the grass, and just… felt weird.

Not rejected. Not angry.

👉 Just lonely.

Every part of me wanted to do something.
Approach another girl. Check my phone.
Escape the feeling.

But I messaged my mentor.
He simply said:

“Sit with it.”

So I did.

At first, it sucked. My mind fought hard.

But then something shifted.
After 30, 40 minutes of just breathing, I felt calm.
The pressure to perform was gone.

I didn’t need to talk to anyone.
I could just be.

And for the first time in a long time…
I felt free.

The Real Problem Isn’t Instagram. Or Women.

Instagram isn’t the enemy. Neither is dating.

But using them to avoid pain?
That’s the trap.

Here’s the 3-step formula I call “From Fear to Freedom”:

1. Identify where fear shows up in your body, emotions, or behaviors.
   (That tight chest. That anxious scroll. That urge to do anything but feel.)

2. Feel it. Build a daily practice of sitting with discomfort instead of escaping it.
   (This is how you train nervous system safety—not through “hacks,” but through presence.)

3. Get support. Don’t go it alone. Walk with someone who’s been there.
   (Through repetition and guidance, the fear loses its grip.)

This is how you stop reacting…
and start leading—with clarity, presence, and grounded power.

No tactics.
No fake confidence.
Just the truth:
👉 Facing what used to run you… and walking right through it.

See you soon,
Edin