Stop hesitation

Hey man,

Today I hugged a tree (I know, nothing new)

but as I did, I had a question pop up:

Why is it considered normal to stand up and down, scrolling your phone while hugging a tree and grounding yourself brings up some feelings of shame if someone walks by
(at least for me)?

It pissed me off, because as a species we are in my opinion walking in the wrong direction when it comes to what is socially normal.

Look around you when you leave the home and see how many people are glued to their screen.

I’m not judging (I spend many hours every day on the phone and laptop), but how common is it not to stare down on your phone when feeling uncomfortable in a social situation?

Very common, right?

So then, because I always link these realization to how to get more successful with girls as well as progress on my spiritual path - I have a realization.

The reason I’ve been hesitating to approach an attractive girl has usually been when I’ve been lost in my comfort zone.

That’s when

• I’m afraid to be judged by others

• Scared of her saying no

• Avoiding embarrassment

which is all cool right, who would want those things?

But when I look at all the times I’ve went up to a pretty blonde or hot brunette and talked with her, it’s always been DESPITE those things.

It’s like, the way to get into a meaningful conversation with her, is to risk all those “negative” things.

And I put negative in “ “ because your problem my friend, is not that you don’t know how to approach girls and take them home

no, it goes much deeper.

The reason for why you fear those things is because you’re feeling ashamed of not being good enough.

Something happened in your childhood where you went from being “I’m Spiderman!” to “I must hide myself because if people find out, then I’m in danger”

no amount of dating apps, good physique or pickup-lines will solve that.

and that’s why - inside Raw Authenticity we work on overcoming that shame.

Because once you do, and trust me, I’m a guy who chased and slept with girls for almost a decade to feel good about myself, so if I managed to start feeling good enough - You can too.

An easy habit you can integrate into your daily life is to do one authentic action where you expect to embarrass yourself.

And when I say authentic, I mean that you do something which would bring you a hit of joy (for me it’s hugging a tree) and not something stupid like doing push-ups in the street.

(don’t get me wrong, I think push-ups are awesome (did 6 today), but doing it can become something you do just to force yourself, and if it’s something I’ve learned over the years is that forcing something is often more destructive than anything else).

So as the old saying goes - An apple a day keeps the doctor a way

I say - Hugging a tree a day makes approaching easier (yes, I know I’m a poet).

I’ll see you tomorrow,

Edin

Story: Hugged a tree
Value: Authentic actions helps you