Stop Forcing Approaches

Hey man,

happy Tuesday (nothing special about today, apart from it being today which is always special).

Over the last 11 years I’ve met thousands of girls through cold approach and there is 1 secret that if I had discovered when I started,

dating would have been easier and I would have more fun.

Let me explain

During my first couple of years of cold approach,

I would go out to bars and clubs 3 or 4 times a week. I would hit on every attractive girl, and if I didn’t, I would go home feeling regretful about not approaching or trying to have sex with her.

You know the feeling of regret, wishing it was different than it is right now.
Ugh, it’s horrible.

Of course I needed a high amount of input (many approaches) I had no experience of showing my desire to girls I never met before,

but it still took me a few years before I learned the secret.

I started daygaming,

Every week I approached over 20 girls, went on a couple of dates. and I even took a girl from the streets of Oslo into my apartment in less than two hours.

Successful?
Sure, but it came with a price…a heavy one.

The amount of shame, guilt and self-attack I experienced was beyond the couple minutes of pleasure and high of getting a good looking girl.

I would hate myself for
- Every girl I didn’t approach
- Every text I sent and regretted
- Every text I didn’t send
- Every girl I didn’t make a move on
- Every girl I made a move on too soon
- and so on…

This resulted in me becoming better with girls, but my relationship with myself went to an all time low.

Let me help you imagine how that looks:

I wake up in the morning and the first thought I have is “I should have approached that girl yesterday”.

As I go to work I’m feeling tense because I’m looking for girls to approach.

At the office I feel so worthless that I outwork the others by 3x because only I’m the best I can avoid the monster in my head.

Coming home, finally, if I didn’t have a date, I would numb the pain with Weed and FIFA.

Can you recognize yourself?

• Forcing yourself to approach

• No matter how good you do, you’re not happy with yourself

• Even if you have sex with a girl, it only days days (or less) for you to feel unhappy again

Here is the 1 secret I wished I knew:

This means that when you wake up, you start by giving yourself compassion.

As you leave for work, you ask yourself “How are you?”

At the office, you relax and do your tasks to the best of your ability because that’s who you are - Excellent

Coming home from work, you do something which will be good for you, wether that is going to bed earlier or taking a walk by the lake.

As you do these things, Life starts playing on your side because you are playing with Life.

I recommend starting this journey by integrating your Inner Child (if you don’t know how to do that then check out this guided meditation)

Because once you do, you’ll start to talk to yourself in a totally different way and that’s when you integrate your very own Internal Wingman.

All the best,

Edin

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