She has not texted me back yet

Hey man,

How do you feel?

Good? Tired?

Whatever you responded, please check again, but this time, don’t reply.

Just feel.

See, I just got off a call with a student where it started with me praising him for his progress (last week his shame and guilt almost reduced by 100%!)

but then, something magical happened.

I asked him

How do you feel?

Now his instinct was to go to his head and explain how he felt, but then he’s not really feeling or even expressing how he feels.

It’s just mind stuff.

That’s why, if you’ve gone to normal talk therapy, you might feel a little better right after, but never get the real progress.

It’s because all of the actual happening is within the emotions. The thoughts are just labels on the emotions.

Here is something to chew on:
The emotions you feel are likely the same you’ve felt for years…maybe even since childhood.

And from my understanding, Life wants you to go integrate these emotions, which sometimes are uncomfortable.

Like, for example, not getting a text back from a girl.

The emotion you feel is very likely something you felt a long time ago, and this event where she doesn’t text you back is just a reflection of that emotion within you.

Because man, in all neutrality, she didn’t text us back - but does that mean we have to feel rejected?

No - that’s our projection.

So then, to not get triggered by this event, and instead view it as it is, you take back this projection.

How?

Feel through the feelings.

That’s the only way - through.

So when she didn’t text back, and you feel upset - feel.

After a while (maybe you need more events like this), you will start to respond instead of react.

That’s when you detach yourself.

So the neediness and all the negative spiral goes away.

And you?

One happy man, detached from the outcome.

So let me ask you again.

How do you feel?

All the best,

Edin