SHE approached ME

Hey man,

I gotta tell you this.

Something incredible happened this Saturday.

You know the hesitation you feel when you see an attractive girl? This tenseness in the chest and stomach and when you suddenly forget how to speak normally.

Well, you might think that this is because of the fear of rejection.

That if she rejects you, then you would feel so bad that your body shuts down in order to protect you.

And even though it’s not fully correct, there is some truth to it.

Because what actually happens is that in the moment when you see her, you feel a sense of lack within.

A hole which says something like “I’m not enough, I don’t deserve love”

of course, this doesn’t happen in your conscious mind

your thoughts are more likely saying
“I don’t have time”
“She’s not my type”
“I don’t have to do it”

so you don’t

and you think it’s fear.

But it’s not

it’s some part of you which doesn’t think he’s worthy.

Saturday evening,

I’m on the metro with two friends going to a Reggeaton club

we’re dressed up, the metro is kinda full and we’re excited.

Me? I’m excited too, but I was tired due to a crazy David Goggins type of run in the morning.

I also have one meditation I didn’t do yet

so I sit down on the floor

cross my legs

and close my eyes.

I hear my friends saying it’s funny and how I’m doing it for attention (yes, but from someone very specific)

I do feel the social pressure, but I’m not focusing on that

I’m doing it because I want to connect with myself

my inner child

the part of me which I abandoned a long time ago.

When I was a child, I felt afraid to express myself because I was afraid that if I did what I wanted,

I would get punished

so for years I had been pushing this part of myself down.

It killed all the spontaneity and joy

and caused me to feel empty.

I thought there was something wrong with me so I looked outside

smoking weed, improving myself and even picking up girls

It never worked

I actually felt worse

Because it was this chase

the next girl, the next joint, the next book to read

never fulfilled

never feeling worthy.

So as I’m sitting here, I feel the uncomfortable feelings.

The part of me saying I’m unworthy

but I’m not running away

I’m facing it

With acknowledgement, acceptance and compassion

And as I do, I’m starting to feel better, more connected and even happy

A few minutes pass and I’m radiating!

I can hear a girl next to me talking with my friends.

I open my eyes and she’s looking at me

Beautiful, long hair and a cute smile

She came to me.

She came because she saw me meditating and felt safe standing next to me this late Saturday evening.

I’m feeling so grounded and talking to her is easy and fun.

Just like talking to my friends, no stress and no overthinking

just expressing whatever is on my mind.

She’s laughing, touching her hair and as we’re going off the metro, we exchange contacts information.

And what do you think happens tomorrow?

Exactly, we’re meeting for a drink.

You see, once you take the Inside-Out approach by filling yourself up from within instead of trying to get her approval

you feel so worthy that you don’t feel like you NEED her

but you still WANT her, so you GIVE to her from abundance.

That is attractive

and that’s when she comes up to you and gives you her contact.

This is how we make dating fun and easy.

Now listen up, because the next time you see a cute girl and you feel hesitation, don’t do what you usually do.

Instead, go within.

Ask yourself

“Am I I wanting to give from abundance or am I trying to fill up a gap?”

Once you do, your attention will go places you did not expect.

And then you will find something you forgot you once had.

My student Dan went through this process, and if you didn’t see his incredible transformation then here is the full 2:39 minute video of him explaining it.

Take care and stay empowered,

Edin

PS: Be ready tomorrow, because I’m going to share something fun with you