Regret is worse than rejection

Happy Friday man!

Weekend is coming on, and unless you’re a DJ or doorman, there is no reason for why you cannot go out and be social these next couple of days.

(just realized even though those two jobs are worked on the weekend, they’re highly social - but I’ll take this slightly embarrassing feeling with me and just say that it further proves my point)

Imagine with me, that after this weekend you not only met a few cool guys

so you can push each other (because they’re into personal development as well),

but also have a date lined up because you approached a cute girl.

And - you went out (wether during the day or the night) alone by yourself!

Sounds impossible?

It’s not, I’ve done it for 11 years

and here are 10 tips for you to be able to do it:

It starts before you even open your front door

1) Get the foundation right
Before leaving your house, get yourself in the right mindset. Put on some music, take a shower and enjoy yourself a little. Remember, you are the party.

2) Set an intention
The power of intention…once you tell the universe what you want, and you show that you’re willing to go for it…door open like magic. So decide on something you intend to do, like share good vibes with people you see and hit on girls you find attractive.

3) Set a goal
What do you want to happen?
Exchange contacts with a cool guy to make friends? Get a number from a girl? Take her home?
Decide what you want to happen, but keep in mind that you cannot control this, so it’s not important if it happens or not.

4) Warming up
Do you even see an athlete sprint before jogging? Exactly, everyone warms up first!
As you leave the door, start by giving out small comments like compliments, and you can even ask people some random questions like where to find a certain place (like a bar or a store). This helps you go from being all in your head to being present.

5) Start right away
As you get to the place you would like to be social, like the city or the bar, then right away start by speaking to someone. It’s not important that the person is cool, attractive or anything, just get into the flow of talking. What to talk about? Anything really, focus more on what you’re feeling, breath, and know that awkwardness is normal in the beginning of an interaction.

6) Create your party
As you’re getting more warmed up, it’s easier to talk with people and you can start to share more good vibes. Remember that most people you meet are not on this social journey, so be ok with them being more awkward than you. Share good vibes and remember to have fun

7) Remember your intention
Do not get lost in the fun, where you end up talking with the bartender or some random guy, when you actually wanted to meet an attractive girl. Use the social flow to start talking with girls you find attractive, and share the good vibes with them. It’s OK for her to not be interested, remember, your intention is to talk with her, not to get anything.

8) An opener is just an opener
When you start talking with someone, you might be looking for ways to start the interaction. That’s ok. I usually just say “Hi”, and follow up with a smile and ask what her name is. After that, you lead the conversation with anything really, and again remember that a little awkwardness is OK.

9) Play the long game
If you live in a smaller area, or even if it’s a big area, you might end up going to the same places. Talk with the bartender, or the old woman owning the store on the corner of the park you go to - they can become your allies later when you need that extra social boost.

10) Enjoy yourself
It’s important to progress and get the results you want, but not right away. It’s a journey, and when I look back at this 11+ years I’ve been out - I mostly remember the craziness of the ups and downs, rather than hitting the milestones like meeting a cool friend or sleeping with a hot girl (don’t get me wrong, those are f** awesome too).

That’s it

Integrate these and you’ll have a blast while making sure the people you meet also do.

See you tomorrow,

Edin