PS: I wrote this from the end to the start

If you want to continuously go on a date a week with a beautiful girl, the Christmas Offer is still open.

Edin

Best wishes

• Try the Social Warmup man. You can talk with an old person without thinking too much about how you look and what the thinks of you right?
  If not, start with a cat or even a tree. It sounds stupid, but it’s about getting you out of your head and into the present moment. If you have a problem being authentic with a tree, we have some deeper issues to talk about brother.

• You can also do the Love and Light meditation which is about giving yourself the compassion to be as you are, no matter how wrong, bad or off target it is. Very healing. Let me know if you want a guided one, and I’ll send it to you.

• Also what you can do is simply to talk with the girl and then be very aware of how much you like and desire her. Where do you feel the desire? Is in the stomach, chest or genitals? Just feel it man and if it’s difficult it’s because you have some shame around it. Do some journaling on why you have this shame.

• Oh, and you have to try this out. Let go of what will happen by approaching her and then you just stay present and see what happens. It’s really cool.

• The first thing you can try is to focus on the how, not the what. You know that 93% of communication is non-verbal right? If not, now you do. For example, it’s much better to say “Hi, how are you?” in a compassionate way, then having the perfect pickup line, but you’re shaking from fear while saying it.

So what you can do in practical steps, are these:

It’s much better man, for example you will be more playful, connected with your inner child (which essentially is playful and by connecting to him you’ll feel more at ease like you did back when you were a child).

The way you do this man is through Raw Authenticity. What I mean with that is you’re being present and OK with not being “good enough”. You know, the standard that you set for yourself is great, but it’s also ok not to always be this good. Also, as I told you in the story you just heard, it can also be a super power.

I know, cool story bro, and here is the lesson.

We actually spent the evening together, the 4 of us. They were both hot so I was actually unsure which one I wanted the most (we ended up with none of them lol because of something that happened, TIPS: Always order a Taxi when taking girls somewhere).

She loved it. I even told her that I felt shy and she said she knew it and liked it. It was groundbreaking for me.

So man, I’m feeling nervous. But I don’t try to hide it. I go up, and I have this slightly awkward smile because I’m feeling shy, you know, it’s kind of like when you imagine the nerd guy from high school approach the girl. That was me.

It’s like everything changed. Now I’m able to see the colors, hear the street musicians as well as actually connecting with my friends as we’re walking down the street. But man, the most important thing I ever could tell you that I was becoming present of, was my feelings. I was fucking nervous man. That’s when I see this cute brunette with her friend across the street. I want to talk with her, genuinely I’m interested.

I didn’t get it, you know? I was supposed to be this Intimacy coach who could easily approach and get girls. I felt tense. That’s when my friend told me to ask myself what I would tell a student if he had this problem. Aha, nice man. So I do, and what happens is that I get the answer “Dance”. Wtf right? But for me it means to flow, and be aware of what is actually happening right now. You know, when you dance you don’t focus on being perfect, you are being present. So I do, and that’s when it hits me.

So we go out on the street and I see a girl that passed us and man she looked good. So I turn around and approach her. She smiles, but says she is not interested and she keeps on going. I go back to my friends and I think, you know, it can happen with anyone. So then another girl comes with her friends and you know, your guy right here turns around and approaches her. She also is not interested. And I feel that something is off, my vibe is off.

Last year, while I was in Lisbon something happened that changed the way I look at approaching girls. I had been an Intimacy coach for about two weeks, quit my job and had just finished a masterclass on Daygame with a couple of my friends. You know how good I felt, I was like the king, you know?

The real problem I didn’t know I had is that I was being inauthentic. This was because I feared being rejected + I needed the external approval from the girl. Also, and you know this, because you’re also someone who rarely feels good enough (at least for long) I felt this pressure to achieve specific outcomes. This leads to overthinking which again leads to anxiety and hesitant action. This combination can make women feel uncomfortable.

Do you also feel lonely as you have little experience with girls? How about the feeling of frustration and jealousy when seeing girls you want on Instagram, or even out in the street? Maybe you even feel a little horny. Well, I get you man because I’ve also had this problem.

You’re going to love this.

Yo bro