Overthinking your approaches?

Hey man,

Happy Friday (today is the day of Venus and it’s a great day to spoil yourself with some bodily pleasure, be it food, sex/masturbation or a massage).

I just finished a call with a student, and he asked me a great question. It lead us to a simple process which makes your dating life fun and easy.

You’ve heard me talk about balancing the inner work with the external work, and vice versa, yeah?

As a part of Raw Authenticity, he’s heard it so many times that he told me he wanted to prioritize the inner work.

Great idea, and why not do the inner work while getting dates?

Here’s what I mean

Approaching a girl with the focus on getting her number, a date or sex can cause you to pressure yourself into trying to be perfect about it.

-Saying the right thing
- being smooth,
and not showing her that you’re nervous.

Well, usually that backfires and you end up overthinking the whole thing, right?

So here’s what we came up with

You can focus on your inner work (being grounded in yourself, communicating with your inner child and being present) while approaching her.

This means that you’re more interested in what’s happening inside of you than what is happening outside of you.

If you notice you’re nervous, afraid or upset, you take the time to communicate with your inner child.

Even if this means telling the girl that right now you’re feeling unworthy of her.

This can mean that she leaves the interaction, or if you’re out for a date, that she leaves the date.

And the point of focusing on your inner work is that you’re ok with it.

You allow whatever result to unfold because you’re more interested in your relationship with yourself than getting her number or having sex with her.

Sounds exciting, scary or both?

Then try it out

In my experience, it’s the quickest way to progress on your spiritual journey while at at the same time meeting cute girls.

And just for motivation - when you’re more interested in your relationship with yourself than getting her into bed…

…how much more do you think she starts to want you than if you only wanted to get her into bed?

That’s right, you become attractive.

And that’s when dating becomes fun and easy.

Enjoy yourself,

Edin