I've been trying so hard to have sex

She didn’t even look at me when she said:

It’s Sunday night. We’re sitting on my couch. I’d just asked her if she wanted to play a Jenga game with sexual dares on each piece.

And honestly?

I don’t blame her.

Lately I’ve been feeling needy for sex.
Even though I’ve been seeing a couple girls regularly… there’s still this undercurrent of desperation.

So when she walked into my apartment, I was already locked on the goal.
Not present. Not attuned. Just chasing.

And yeah, it goes deeper…

In high school, I was still a virgin. I didn’t mind it too much at first—until my friends started mocking me for it.
I didn’t stand up for myself. I just soaked it in.

So when I moved out and hit college, I made a vow:

And I did.

Dozens of dates. Countless hookups.

But under all that?

I still wasn’t okay.

Because I wasn’t chasing connection.

I was chasing proof that I was enough.

That if she wanted me sexually… maybe I’d finally feel confident.
Maybe I’d finally stop feeling like the invisible guy from high school.

But it never really worked.

Yeah, I had sex.
But it wasn’t satisfying.
It was like running a race with no finish line.

Every club night ended the same:
Me, out on the sidewalk, hitting on girls near McDonalds until only the cleaning staff were left.

Fast forward—

After years of chasing validation through women…
I finally started doing the deeper work.

Inner child.
Nervous system safety.
Self-trust.

Now?

• I can text her and not care if she replies.

• I can approach her in public, and if she says no—I’m still smiling.

• I can show her my silly, dorky side without wondering if it “kills attraction.”

And here’s the twist:

Since I stopped chasing sex to feel enough…

Women are actually more drawn to me.
More intimacy. More connection. More depth.

So on Sunday, after she said she wasn’t feeling it… I felt calm.
Centered.
Free.

Because it wasn’t about her anymore.

It was about me no longer abandoning myself.

And here’s the real insight I want to leave you with:

Do right. Not more.

– Edin

PS:
There are still 3 days left before I close my 1-on-1 coaching.
This isn’t for guys chasing shortcuts or magic lines.

This is for men ready to end the war inside.

To stop performing… and start showing up as the man she actually wants.

If that’s you, check your last 2 emails for your next step..