Imagine you never distracted yourself with screens again

Hey man,

I just had a pretty cool experience.

You know when scroll your phone for a bit too long

and then feel bad about having distracted yourself “doing nothing”?

Well, there might be something that is happening which you are not aware of.

See, I’m practicing Sexual Kung Fu lately

It helps me enjoy sex more

and also I feel more grounded

Anyways as I lay down to practice,

(which in reality means to practice deep breathing + a certain technique while self-pleasuring without any fantasy or porn)

I start to feel emotional

Very emotional

My mind starts wandering and I think about girls I either had slept with or wanted to sleep with

I even start thinking about watching porn (which I haven’t done for a good while!)

And that’s when I know that something is up, because I know that watching porn at this point of my life doesn’t give me anything

So I ask myself what I’m trying to escape

That’s when I notice…my stomach is tense

There is something painful.

I take a breath, a deep one

And I acknowledge the pain and tell myself it’s okay to feel it

(not gonna lie, this is a bit painful)

but as soon as I acknowledged it, I no longer felt the urge to distract myself

I knew that this pain was something I needed to face

and moments later I’m feeling so good (and proud).

So here’s the deal

We need to stop demonizing distractions and instead go to the root cause.

Because when we observe the urge instead of resisting or reacting to it, the shame around it goes away.

Now you’re able to acknowledge the pain which you wanted to escape from, and when you do, the urge to distract yourself goes away.

So when your weeks work is over and the silence of the weekend arise

and you want to distracting yourself with weed, porn or scrolling Instagram/YouTube

take a moment to ask yourself what you are trying to escape.

It’s well worth the discomfort.

Stay empowered,

Edin

PS: The doors for the Bootcamp are now closed. If you messaged me before, congratulations.