I was a s3x and w33d addict, but at least I learned

Happy Thursday my guy.

For years, I wanted to have a relationship with a girl and feel safe in my skin, but my actions were saying the exact opposite.

Every time I would get into an intimate emotional moment with a girl, I would initiate sex and therefore escape those uncomfortable feelings.

Every time I didn’t feel good (guilt, some type of self-attack, or shame about something), I would smoke weed to feel better, - or in actuality, suppress these emotions.

Long story short, it took me to a point where

1. I slept with a girl and thought to myself “What am I doing?”

2. I hurt one of my closest friends by mixing my bad mental health with alcohol and weed.

This sucked, but at least it took me to a point where I stopped doing what was not working and instead made a shift into living my dream.

Now, I’m able to enter any room (even just by myself) and feel happy whether I’m in a high or low state of being.

I’m also in a relationship where I’m expressing my hidden shame around jealousy, anger, and even love - which feels more nurturing than hooking up with endless girls.

That’s why I will share with you how to overcome the problem of not getting the results you want, despite going out and approaching girls.

You’ll be getting three steps that will help you find the real problem, and once you do, you can go on that Hero journey because you will have your eyes on the prize. 

The reason this works is because you’ll be hitting the root cause. 

This is why online dating has not solved it for you in the past, because it’s only dealing with the symptom (wanting sex), instead of dealing with the actual root which is stopping you from getting that in the first place.

Before we go into it, here’s one of my coaching principles:

The inner work must be balanced by the outer work and vice versa.

If you’re only meditating and not talking with girls, you’re going nowhere. In the same way, if you’re only talking with girls, and never doing any introspection, you’re walking in circles.

That’s why we’ll start by going inwards to investigate, then with that knowledge aim our boy and arrow towards the goal before releasing it into full action.

There are three steps, and here they are:

Number ONE: To do this, you need a large chunk of awareness, but as you’re already a deeply spiritual person and have invested time and energy into meditation, you can go straight to number two.

Number TWO: Prepare for a moment of honesty with yourself. In the past, you’ve avoided certain parts of yourself that you deemed as bad, so this will be the toughest and also the biggest breakthrough point for you.

1. Figure out what you want (girlfriend/sleep with your type of girl)

2. Why do you want this? (This will be your fuel when you encounter challenges)

3. What do you need to stop doing to do this? (In which way are you holding yourself back from reaching this goal?)

4. How can you do it? (What needs to be done for you to stop doing that which you found out in question 3)

Stop reading, schedule a time in your calendar (or do it now), and do the introspection!

Number THREE: The last step is taking action. Here is where I let you go because I know that once you have your inner excitement tuned in on what you want, taking action is easy for you.

Take care of yourself,

Edin