I wanted her, but I froze

Here's why

Edin Zubovic
July 09, 2025

Hey man,

Have you ever seen a girl you liked…
and then froze?

Or maybe you started talking to her —
but your voice cracked, your chest tightened, and nothing made sense?

If that’s you, this is for you.

Because that was me… this morning.

I was out on a walk, following my excitement instead of my routine.
Then I saw her — beautiful, confident, magnetic.

And bam — my brain froze.

“Do I really want to go talk to her?”
“Why would someone like her be into me?”
“I don’t have time.”

The classics.

And for a second, I believed them — especially that sneaky one:

“Why would she be into someone like me?”

And I had to laugh.
I’ve been on hundreds of dates. I’ve helped men all over the world leading themselves towards their potential.

And still — that thought.

Which made me wonder…
How often does it show up for you?

Daily? Weekly?

If so, it’s time to shift it.

Here’s how:

1. Awareness
You can’t change what you don’t see.
And just seeing the thought — "I'm not enough" — is your first win.

2. Understand this truth:
Your brain doesn’t care about your dating life.
It doesn’t want you to be happy, turned on, or fulfilled.

It just wants you to be safe.
So every time you see a woman you want…
Your brain sees a threat.

No wonder you freeze.

3. Rewire it (what we do inside Raw Authenticity):
But here’s a simple tool I give my students:

TEAR
Thought → Emotion → Action → Result

Start with the thought:

“She might actually enjoy meeting me.”
That creates a grounded emotion.
Which leads to a bold action.
And eventually? You get the result.

So here’s your challenge:

What new thought will you choose the next time you see her?

Write it down. Practice it.
Let it become part of who you are.

And if you want help turning that thought into consistent, confident action —
hit reply with “ready.”

My 1:1 coaching is still closed, but we’ll have a quick chat and see if you’re a fit for when it opens.

Let’s go.

Edin