I picked up a girl in 5 minutes

Happy Monday,

Today is my first day back from the holidays (man it’s tough to get back into it) - but at the same time I’m happy, because I get to be with you

and today we’ll talk about why getting good with picking up girls is not enough to feel complete.

We’ll do that by revisiting the time I picked up a girl in 5 minutes and brought her home,

(it’s not even my quickest “pull”. My quickest took about 1 minute and was actually the 3rd girl I ever slept with, and I have a student that has girls come straight back to his place only from texting them)

but this story tells it so well..

I was horny, or so I thought

It was the weekend and I wanted to go out to meet a girl to bring her home. First I met with a friend that had invited me to a social event.

There were some girls there and for some reason I could not relax and enjoy myself…all I taught about was bringing a girl home.

I sat down with a cute blonde girl, and she was eager to speak, but when I tried to escalate it, she was not really into it just yet and instead of staying with her for the evening I decided to leave.

Going out to the city center, I sat down with two girls and within a few minutes I had invited my target to the bar, got a glass of water and we started making out

I say: Let’s go back to mine
She replies: Where do you live?
I say: Just around the corner

We go back, have sex and as soon as I finish I think to myself 

“What am I doing?”

She’s not even my type of girl. She’s just…a girl. She notices the change of vibe and we agree that it’s best that we end the night here.

We say our goodbyes and as I go back into the apartment I start to realize some discomfort.

It’s like a hole within myself that doesn’t feel good. I managed to distract myself from it with validation from girls + sex, but now I see that these were only band-aids and not dealing with the actual problem

I don’t think I’m enough

This took me down the rabbit hole of dealing with my traumas. Now I only have sex with girls I’m actually interested in, and able to relax and enjoy the process no matter the outcome.

A side effect of this is that girls find the non-neediness attractive…

You cannot pick-up or even sex yourself into feeling good enough. No matter how many girls or how hot they are. Take my word for it.

The external work must be balanced with inner work, and vice versa.

That’s it from me today,
Edin