I know it's scary

Hey man,

today I hugged a tree (nothing new here, but stay with me)

and a woman was passing by.

Usually I just ignore people and do my thing (it’s awesome for grounding yourself), but today I felt like saying something

I said “I’m feeling very tense, so I’m trying to ground myself”

she looks at me, smiles and says

“Yeah, if you take off your shoes it will be even better”

I’m halfway in disbelief, because here we are, two strangers, discussing hugging trees and standing barefoot on the grass.

And now, let me explain how this helps with approaching attractive girls.

Girls are, how I experience it, attracted by your ability to stay comfortable with social pressure.

This social pressure appears when you:

Example:
- Go up and talk with a stranger
- Talk in front of a crowd
- Speak up during a work meeting

It’s what you would call uncomfortable, and it might be, but it’s what she finds exciting.

Why?

I’ve heard it stems from our cultural upbringing during the times we lived in small villages. If you were comfortable with much social pressure, it meant that you felt safe, which probably meant you were safe, which meant it was safe for her to have children with you.

So, according to this, it’s a biological thing. Nothing fancy yeah?

Now, here are the two mistakes that most guys make when it comes to handling tension:

1. They are avoiding the tension, which results in them making sounds and movements that fizzles it out - and with that, the potential attraction.

2. Totally unaware of the tension. Think of a drunk person yelling in public- he’s attracting social tension, but it’s not safe or attractive.

Now, today, it’s likely that you have found yourself somewhere in the middle here. I have, which resulted in mass approaching girls, but never getting results.

That’s because in order for you to utilize this holy grail of attraction, you have to be both aware of this tension and be comfortable with it.

Once you become experienced with this, you become like the leader of the village - and girls can feel safe feeling attracted to you.

Now, you are like the village leader and she can feel safe feeling attracted to you.

That’s why you want to start by feeling safe within yourself.

Like I often say

“The external work needs to be balanced with the inner work”.

You got this,

Edin