I got rejected

Hey mate

Writing to you a little earlier this time.

I’m happy to be alive today.

It’s Monday, and though my tasks were not done perfectly today, I’m happy because tomorrow is a new day, and I can do them a little better.

Yesterday,

I’m out running to the top of a mountain here in Georgia. The elections are in 5 days, so the streets are filled with people (and cute girls).

Focusing on my run (and Audible), I’m not paying much attention to them, but there are too many opportunities to not flirt with one or two.

I see one that I like and I stop her.

Me: “Hey”
She: “Hey”
Me: “What is your name?”
She: “Ah.. No, bye!”

….

… yeah, she rejected me.

Now, there are two ways to go about it.

I could’ve easily thought

“ah, I’m a harasser and a creep and I should not be talking with girls”

but instead, I thought

“So she was not into me and probably in a rush”

this comes from years of practicing positive self-talk, by the way.

I continue my run toward the mountain and I see her

Beautiful girl, red hair with curls

I start thinking

She looks like the girl I was flirting with in my dream, what if I go and talk with her?

I don’t have to do it right now

It’s not the time

which is normal right?

but then, I take control of my thinking

It’s going to be awesome

This is like the dream, it’s a sign and if I do it I will get closer to my highest self

I got it

Turning around, I catch up with her and have to dodge two guys who were taking up all the sidewalk (and yes, I had the thought “What if they see me approaching her”, but yeah…what if? Maybe they get encouraged too)

I go up and say what’s on my mind

Me: “Hey, where are you from”
She has airpods in and takes them out
Me: “Hey, are you from Georgia?
Her: “No” hesitates a bit
Me: “Where are you from?” and this point I realize from the slight awkwardness that I’ve asked her about her nationality 3 times, and I feel the tension, but I also acknowledge that it’s just an excuse for my to talk with her and that’s what my mind conjured up in the moment so I own it

She: “Russia”
Me: “Ah, I see. And it’s fine, I understand that you feel hesitant to say it because of the elections and people being against Russia”
Her: “Yeah! I know and …”

We talk for a few minutes, and I have the feeling she doesn’t want me to leave. I mention my girlfriend and she also says she has a husband.

It doesn’t seem to matter, because we’re connecting, attracted to each other and just enjoying the interaction without it having to go anywhere.

So for you, my friend

this is the lesson:

Do not base your mood on what happens (outcome)

instead, base it on your actions

Because in this way you are in control, instead of giving that remote control to other people (in this case attractive girls)

and I promise you, that if you keep approaching girls and being open about your attraction to her

you will eventually meet someone who is into you too

You can meet many if you choose to.

If you want help with that, just send me a message.

Your guy,

Edin