I figured out the antidote to fear of rejection

Happy Sunday brother.

Astrologically, today is the day of the Aries which is a today of being direct, energetic and courageous.

It’s also the day of the sun (Sunday hehe) which represents warmth, creativity and life joy.

You’re someone who not only wants to have success with girls, but is also inspired by the inner growth.

You know, the confidence, ability to express yourself authentically as well as feel safe within yourself.

This then results in deeper connections, as you’re allowing yourself to express yourself without any fear of judgement and rejection.

Yesterday I approached a girl on my way home from boxing training.

My intention is to test out something I’ve been working on lately, which seems to be the antidote for the fear of rejection. You’ll know what it is in a moment.

I go up to her, and in the first 20 seconds, I’m feeling nervous and kind of acting all over the place (yeah, this still happens).

but then, I remember why I went up to her. It was not at all to get anything from her, so why am I acting in this approval seeking way? It’s actually the opposite of my intention

Because my intention is to go up to her while giving myself the approval that I was looking for

and as soon as I do, I feel this absolute calmness within me.

Like I don’t need anything from anyone, not even this pretty girl.

Then, in an instant, I’m speaking calmly, feeling more comfortable, and able to say what I want instead of speaking nonsense due to the nervousness.

I’ve had this on sales calls too, when I’m trying to get something from the guy, instead of focusing on what I can give.

Why?

Approval seeking

See, when you were little, you needed your parents approval to survive. Then, as you grow up, this pattern has become unconscious, and every time you approach a girl, you’re seeking her approval.

This results in fear of rejection, feeling stifled and unnecessary nervousness.

Instead of doing that, you can (like I did yesterday), give yourself this approval.

And when you do, you’re no longer looking outside, meaning you’re no longer needing anything.

Not needy = attractive

Attractive = Her chasing you

Her chasing you = You’re the man

You’re the man = Success

Success = You feel good and help everyone else

= profit for everyone!

The lesson here is that you need to balance the approaching with the inner work, and a first step is to stop looking for that outer approval, and instead give it to yourself.

Do this

1. Understand what part of you is seeking this validation and approval, and then seek to find ways to give it to yourself.

2. Affirm to yourself. This is the affirmation I used:
   I’m loving and accepting myself exactly as I am, without needing the approval from anyone else.

Take care,
Edin

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