I didn’t approach her...

Hey man,

How lovely isn’t the weather getting?

It’s spring here in Barcelona, and everyday is getting longer and warmer.

All good, until you see a pretty girl.

First there is the excitement, but then, the hesitation

This just happened to me as I was walking back from the beach.

I talked with a group of girls, then decided to leave because I was not so interested and suddenly there was another girl who was really pretty walking towards me.

I didn’t want the girl I just approach see me approach another one in front of her and her friends, so I made up an excuse to myself and didn’t do it.

Then slowly, dragging myself down the negative spiral of guilt.

The beautiful sun, no longer in my awareness.

Just the self-attack, feeling of unworthiness and painful guilt.

…until you feel like the day is lost and you just want it to be over with.

It’s moments like this that I’m glad I’ve decided to do the inner work. Yes, I’ve done the approaches and learned the mindsets, but when these moments hit…no amount of “game” really helps.

You only skipped out on approaching a girl, right?

No, it goes much deeper.

It’s not about the girl.

It’s about you.

Because your self-worth is linked to you acting on your desire, and if she likes it or not.

So when you don’t express your desire to a pretty girl, you start feeling a lot of guilt and unworthiness.

I know it’s been like this for a long time, but cycle is not helpful, rather it’s having you lose out on more opportunities.

Like the moment right now!

I believe in an inside-out approach, and inside Raw Authenticity we practice discovering our Authentic Confidence.

It’s the confidence that goes below the surface and is not affected by external events like surface level confidence is.

That’s why the way to respond to a moment like this is not to fight the negative thoughts, but rather allow and love them.

The angry and guilty energy doesn’t need you to feel bad about yourself, rather it needs your compassion!

With my students, during our 1:1 calls and sometimes the group calls too, we practice this live, but to give you a taste of how it feels then I recommend trying this meditation:

It’s called Love and Light and works wonders when you catch yourself feeling guilty and falling into the negative spiral.

Let me know when you’ve tried it, and how it worked for you.

Talk to you later amigo,

Edin