How to believe

Hey man,

I just spontaneously booked a flight to Oslo for a friends birthday party and I feel happy about following my excitement.

Initially I felt tired and was thinking how I need to do this and that and so on…

But then I stopped up…what brings me the most excitement right now, even just a little bit?

Obviously it’s booking the ticket and going there for the weekend.

So I did.

How do you think I will feel now when approaching a girl?

Happy, energized and with a belief about how great I’m treating myself.

This is what she notices in my presence.

Joy and excitement.

So how does she feel?

You know the law of state transference, so you know that she would feel joy and excited too.

Now when I ask for her number, it’s likely that she’s going to say yes - compared to if I felt like shit.

Now, I’m not saying that feeling like shit is a stopper for speaking with girls, not at all - I’ve met attractive girls when I felt down and had sex.

But even in those moments, I chose to embrace how I felt and make the best out of it.

You know what I mean

For example now, if you stop up for a moment

And ask yourself:

“Where is my excitement?”

“What do I want now?”

Do it, I’m sure something comes up

Now, are you following that?

If not, because of fear and the same critical voice I had - then you’re not living your potential.

Both your dating and spiritual progress is declining (nothing is static, so either it’s going one way or the other)

meaning that with every decision you make which is going against your excitement is making you feel worse in your body and less optimistic about meeting sexy girls.

In my experience, this is a process of both inner and external work which we’re doing inside the Raw Authenticity program.

One of us decided last week he’s going for his Project Happiness, which is him working 6 months as a programmer and the other 6 months doing what he loves.

Now, when he’s doing that, you know he’s showing up differently with the women he hits on.

What’s stopping you from following your inner excitement too?

Much of the reason is because of you’re seeking for that external approval.

The remedy for that, you know, is to give yourself that approval from within and you can do that using the AAUE-framework we’ve talked about in a previous letter.

I know that this journey is tough and it sometimes feels like it’s going the wrong direction, but if you are taking action in the right direction and following your inner excitement, you are making progress.

Gotta pack, see you soon

Edin