How to approach ANY girl in public

Hey man,

around Christmas times there are a lot of people outside in the streets and shops.

I just came off a call with a student that went out to talk with a few girls.

He went from being in his head to spontaneously talking with people and getting into the flow.

First a cool conversation with another guy, and then he got the number from a girl that is just his type (he might have a date this evening with her).

It only took him 2 easy steps, (I’ll share them with you in a moment)

and this got me thinking…

…you’re so much closer to approaching and connecting with a pretty girl than you THINK.

If you’ve tried talking with girls and not got results, then it’s not what you think it is.

You can spend hours working on your tonality, ability to be creative with words and so on without making any real progress.

The reason?

Sleeping with and eventually becoming deeply intimate with a girl has nothing to do with you not saying the right thing.

The right thing, you know, is just a made up concept. In my opinion it’s more effective as a tool that causes procrastination than anything else.

It’s when you try to be perfect.

Perfect?

Why would you want to be that?

The only reason I can see is if there is a wound inside of you that is saying “I’m not enough”

I get it by the way, I used to be very much run by this pattern. But this belief is not true!

 You’re enough and here is why:

You’re like anyone else

Every man, woman, pretty girl, less pretty girl, smart guy, whatever

is just a human being - like you.

The problem is when we start to judge others to be better or worse and in the meantime judge ourselves for being better than, worse than or (good enough for.)

No one is better or worse than anyone else.

And dude, what does even good enough mean?

Nothing

It’s just a false structure built upon a sand castle. Don’t fall for it. Let it fall down.

I want you to replace “good enough” with “aligned with” so that you no longer try to be good enough for someone, or expect someone to be good enough for you

rather, you explore if you are aligned.

Meaning,
- Are you two on the same wave length?
- Do you like each other?
- Is there a connection?

Then, the approaching comes from a place of curiosity and adventure.

It’s a meeting of two people.

Potentially two people who are attracted by each other.

Then, all you have to do, my guy, is to follow your desire.

See a girl that sparks excitement within you? Walk up to her and share with her what is happening in your experience.

That’s it

and let her into the dance by not rushing or trying hard to get to your goal of sleeping with her.

In this way… Life starts to happen through you

and that - is when magic happens :)

2 easy steps:

1. Get outside your head and into the moment by putting social pressure on yourself. What I like to do is take my hands above my head and let out a winning roar that sounds like “Woohoooo!”

Accept the social pressure by allowing yourself to be a bit embarrassed.

After this, you care less about the judgement of others and can freely flow.

2. Have some fun by connecting with your inner child. Ask him what he wants, and usually it’s something simple like “Tell me that everything will be ok”. Do what he asks for and you will often be rewarded with spontaneity and joy. This makes the interaction even easier and you’ll be flowing.

Have fun out there,

Edin