How to approach a girl

Hey man,

You want to approach a girl, because you would like to have sex with her.

I get it, I like sex too.

So why aren’t we approaching every girl we like, just like that?

Simple, because of the fear of judgement and rejection.

Now, how about we grow beyond these fears with a new approach called The Inside-Out Approach?

The reason it has stopped you in the past is because you have followed the old way of approaching girls (and life in general).

It’s the Outside-In approach, where we start with what others would appreciate, like what pick-up line to use or muscles we have

which is cool, I don’t have anything against that and I support having a fit body.

But the problem is that this approach is ineffective.

Why?

It makes you reactive.

Let me explain.

Imagine your young cousin who looks up to you.

Yeah, that little fucker (just joking, he’s adorable).

No matter what you say and do, he’ll react, meaning he’ll laugh, smile or say something.

It feels good, but imagine if you were a girl and every time you did anything, the guy who tried to sleep with you reacted.

You would start to think that he is chasing you, which he is.

Now, why is he chasing you? Because he likes you - but so does a lot of guys, so why should you choose him?

He would have to work really hard to get you, but that would just make him look even more needy, desperate and potentially creepy.

= Rejected

Now instead, imagine a guy who doesn’t react.

As the girl, you say something and sometimes he responds to you while other times he ignores it and does his own thing.

You get curious, what is it with him? Maybe he has other girls, maybe he’s about to solve a big mysterious project.

= Interested

That is the logical argument.

Now, let’s take a look at the deeper reason for why this is ineffective:

If you are looking for a girl to tell you if you look good, then you’ll be re-acting (take a look at the last part of the word) so that she will give you the thumbs up.

It works, sometimes, but putting on a mask takes a lot of energy.

And then, when you get so much pussy that you think you're full of it - you realize that having sex was never what you really wanted anyway (this happened with me) and you get depressed (also happened with me).

So, you might be thinking, what do you do instead?

It’s of course, the Inside-Out Approach.

In this way, you give yourself that which you need.

Not the sex, but that which the sex represents for you

Inner love and comfort.

And when you already have that which you need, then you are like the guy who is solving a big mysterious project.

You wake up in the morning without any rush because…you’re fulfilled.

You see the girl and you slowly make your way over because, you don’t need anything from her and if you lose the opportunity, you know you’ll get another one.

When you talk with her, you’re relaxed and flirting without even trying because that’s the way you are, relaxed and flirty.

So when it comes to having sex, it’s no longer such a big deal because you’re already feeling safe from within.

And that’s how you approach her without being creepy.

Take care of yourself,

Edin

PS: I just made a 12 minute video about this topic, and you can watch it here: