How ego kills momentum in dating

Hey man,

Ever been in a moment where things are going really well with a girl—
and suddenly, something inside you says:

That’s not logic.
That’s not intuition.
That’s ego.

A lot of guys think ego only shows up when we fail.
But in reality?

Ego is loudest right before we break through.

It wants to protect you.
It wants to freeze the moment at the peak—so you don’t risk messing it up.
But that’s how it kills real connection.

Let me tell you a quick story.

I was going to watch a football match with a friend, and on the way there, I met a girl and invited her to join.
She came with us. It was flowing. Natural. Great energy.

But 30 minutes in…
I felt uncomfortable.
Suddenly, I had this thought:

Why?

Because if she left now,
I could talk to my friend about how awesome it went.
Feel good. Safe. In control.

The real fear?
That she might leave later—
And I’d feel rejected. Abandoned.

So the ego tried to eject me from the moment before that could happen.

But this time, I did something different.
I said to her:

And to my surprise—she got it.
She stayed.

Later, when I had to find our other friend in the crowd, she looked at me and said:

That moment?

It broke the loop.

Because instead of self-sabotaging through silence or avoidance—
I named what was real.

Here’s what I’ve learned since:

1️⃣ Your ego will try to cash out early.
Especially when things are going well. It wants safety over connection.

2️⃣ Awareness is your weapon.
Catch the shift when it happens: the tightening, the second-guessing, the urge to walk away.

3️⃣ Name it. Out loud.
To her, a friend, or even your journal.
Truth cuts through ego like nothing else.

Next time your ego says:

Ask yourself:

“Why am I really here?”
To feel safe? Or to grow, connect and meet an attractive girl?

That one question will take you through the discomfort
and straight into the real you.

And that’s where attraction lives.

Let me know—have you ever had a moment like this?
Where you felt the ego trying to pull the plug just as things were going well?

Hit reply and tell me.
I read every one.

Talk soon,
Edin