Here is why the cute girl didn't like you

Hey man,

how are you?

I’m going to share with you something that sounds random, but is connected to your dating life.

A moment ago I was helping a friend prepare for her interview.

She really wants the job, and is willing to do what it takes to get it.

She would say the stuff the interviewer (me) wanted to hear.

Even if it was not true.

For me, this felt needy because I could see she just said it to please me.

Then, as a good friend, I mirrored this back to her and that’s when she started saying what she really meant.

Totally different energy

She thought she needed to prove something, but when she expressed her truth I could feel that she knew what she was talking about

(And yes, I would have hired her)

Can you recognize yourself?

Saying what you think the cute girl wants to hear while holding back on what you really mean

(Which is actually the gold)

Let me explain,

Most of the time, you’re in state of wanting to move forward, but not feeling good enough to do so.

So you see the girl, but you don’t approach.

Or you talk with her, but there is this constant feeling of control, where you don’t want to say the wrong thing.

In other words, you’re playing “not to lose” instead of “to win”

This is ruining your opportunities with women you had a perfectly good chance with.

Here is how you make the shift into «playing to win»

First, realize that you cannot control how she responds.

So the old way of doing things which is:

She smiles and gives you her number = success

She looks away or looks disgusted = failure

Needs to go.

The only thing you can control is what you do.

So in order to play to win, you change the measure of success to what you do instead of what you get.

Now, you’re focused on saying and doing what is true for you.

Which means…you’re being honest.

and honesty is actually very hot because she trusts you and feels safe around you.

Would you like a girl to feel safe around you?

Then start by being honest with yourself, because that’s where it starts.

Have a good week

and stay empowered,

Edin