Have you ever lost a girl

Hey man,

quick one today because I have yoga and then seeing a girl after.

And it’s funny because today I decided to go on a 21 days detox from women.

Meaning no approaches, no escalation or anything like that.

Women have been such focus and took so much attention that I decided to spend more time with my inner child instead.

But having already scheduled seeing her, I’ll just meet her and let her know we’ll have ice cream and nothing else 😉 

For you on the other hand, I have something special.

Maybe a little mind-bending, because it changed my view on women and situations where I would lose her because I was being respectful.

Let’s imagine this scenario

You see her in the store, she’s shopping your favorite type of foods and you think to yourself

“Man, we buy the exact same stuff, healthy food, she likely has good values too”

Now, you know that the logical thing is just to go over and say something like that

but the voice in the head stops you

maybe it’s because you have too much respect for her

maybe it’s because of society saying you cannot cold approach someone in the store

and maybe (more likely) there is something completely different that is the problem.

Let’s get real

The fact that you want to speak with her, but believe you cannot is not because you respect her or because society says so

The reason you don’t do it is either because you’re lacking self-validation

or because there is shame and guilt blocking you

either way, the problem is not out there with either her or society

it’s within you

That’s why practicing openers to use in specific situations doesn’t work, because they are just treating the symptom

It’s like you go to the doctor because your arm fell off, and he gives you a band-aid

(grotesque example yes, but at least now you see how little that helps).

So the way to actually see a girl in the store and meet her for a drink this week, is to first go within and deal with those blocks

then you won’t need to force yourself to approach because it will feel way more natural

as there is less resistance holding you back.

The other part is of course to build some momentum by putting yourself in situations where you meet girls in your day to day, so that your brain gets experience

which makes it feel less dangerous.

We do both of these things (the inner work and meeting girls) during our Bootcamps.

The next one is the 26th of September here in Barcelona

and if you feel ready to finally break free from the chains of “respect and society”

then message me “Barca”

and we’ll have a quick chat about it to see if it’s your next best step.

All the best,

Edin