Feel guilty about not approaching a girl?

Hey bro,

You know, I started this coaching because I saw how following my authenticity helped me have sex with the first girl I lost my virginity to

Looking back at the Facebook Messenger chat, I saw that I didn’t use any techniques or overthink

I was sharing with her what was on my mind (which was quite horny)

and she played along and we had a cool and sexual date.

She was also hot (the last time I checked her Facebook she was on some rich guy’s Yacht).

Over the next years,

I studied pickup and dated lots of girls and along the way,

and I picked up (pun not intended) mindsets about how a guy needs to be a certain way to attract girls

You know what I mean right?

• Confident

• Cool and laidback

• Sure of himself

And while these are great traits to have,

I’ve observed how it stifled most guys when it comes to actually walking up to and authentically connecting with a girl they find attractive

You see, the problem is not that these traits are bad,

no, as you read, these are great

but as you experience highs and lows, you will not always feel great about yourself.

So when you see her, you want to say something, but because you don’t feel good enough, you end up losing the opportunity

and walking home, self-attacking, and feeling guilty.

That’s why you need to discover your Authentic Confidence.

That’s your deeper confidence that’s not validated by your results, but rather your real trust in yourself and the flow of the universe.

When you do, you also see how feeling nervous is a superpower.

If you Google the Latin root for “nervous,” you get “sinewy, energetic, vigorous” which means you’re connected, full of energy, and healthy.

The problem, my friend, is that you have been thinking this energy was not good enough,

and you felt ashamed about it…

so you tried to hide it

which meant you’ve hidden this connecting, energetic, and healthy part of yourself.

Instead, embrace it.

Be nervous

But don't hesitate, because that’s damaging your Authentic Confidence.

It is telling yourself, your girl, and the world
“I don’t trust the process”
which is another way of saying that you’re resisting the moment
And in other words, suffering

So again

Be nervous, but don’t hesitate

I like to live by the principle down below, as it helps me make decisions in the heat of the moment:

“It’s better to be authentic and fail, than fake and win”

Let’s make this week into an epic one,

Edin