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Fear of being perceived as a creep?
Here is how to solve it
Hey, man,
Just finished boxing training, eating my raw unsalted cashew nuts and preparing to jump on a student call!
I’m writing you this E-mail,
because I’m curious.
Do you experience fear and self-doubt in your daily life?
If so, I’d like to invite you to let go of something
Something so deep that once you do, you’ll feel free to express yourself how you want
No matter how cute the girl in front of you is
I have a self-care routine that I do for 90 minutes every week,
where I do exactly what I want and it helps me become more comfortable in my own space.
This time, I want to buy some Georgian bread (fresh from the oven)
I do, and as I go out of the bakery, the rain starts pouring
I mean, real pouring, like the man upstairs had been waiting in line to let go of this waterfall for hours
The doorway of the bakery is crowded with people and a cute girl is standing there
She has headphones in, and I think to myself that I don’t want to talk to her because she might get mad
I start talking to the two girls next to her instead and the interaction sucks
No connection and it just feels off, you know?
While I’m standing next to them in this semi-awkward silence
I notice that the cute girl is looking over and that’s when it hits
Like a lightning strike, I understand what had happened
You see, I chose these girls because I was afraid of being rejected by the cute one
I was afraid of getting her disapproval, you know?
So that’s why I chose to reject myself and talk with the others
Now, this takes us to a deep part of your psychology, and here’s where it gets interesting
This approval-seeking behavior is something that you created when you were young
You expressed yourself to your family and your mother disapproved of you
In response, you decided to believe that you were not worthy of your desire
Why did you do that?
Because by rejecting yourself, you would not get rejected by her, and you could still get her love
this was a defensive mechanism that’s still running your life and because of it you do not get what you want
- Intimacy with girls
- Social expression and connection with people you meet
- Being vulnerable with your friends
What I’m saying is that once you let go of this search for your mother’s love,
you stop living life according to her values and what you think will please her.
Instead, you reconnect with your Authentic Confidence
and that’s when you take another step on your journey of living life with no limitations.
A powerful way of letting go of this search is to go on an inner journey into your subconscious.
1. Visualize going into your subconscious.
2. Go into a room and meet your mother.
3. Tell her that you are ready to let go of the search for her love.
4. Feel that you are letting go of it.
5. Turn around and walk away into another room.
6. Reflect on how you feel.
7. Visualize going back into real life and open your eyes.
I recorded a guided visualization for you to be able to relax and get the most out of the experience.
If you want it, just message me LOVE, and I will send it to you for free.