Do you self-attack in the mornings?

Hey mate

I’m glad you’re reading this, because this simple “trick” will give you so much more joy and love

so that you can start your day off right.

Oh and yeah, while I’m writing this for you, I’m listening to Whale Sounds on Spotify. That’s how weird I am.

Anyway, I also have potatoes in the oven, so I will keep this short for you:

The self-attack you feel is likely coming from a place of guilt.

“I should have done that”
“I shouldn’t have done this”

and the reason you allow yourself to self-attack is because a part of you thinks this will benefit you.

I’ll let you in on something…

…it won’t. 

Here’s why:

You already know what the aligned action was (approaching that girl, not sending that text), and beating yourself up won’t do any good.

Instead, I invite you to look at it differently

because you will start to feel much better and that will give you more time and energy throughout your day.

When you feel guilt, a part of you is asking for forgiveness. 

When you feel shame, a part of you is asking for acceptance. 

If you think that you don’t deserve forgiveness or acceptance, then know this:

You will just dig yourself a hole and stay there, until you decide to go out.

It doesn’t get better by digging and self-attacking.

You know that, man.

So, when you wake up and you observe that self-attack, start to give yourself compassion and acceptance.

If you feel it hard to feel compassion,

you can imagine a kitten or puppy because it helps you feel love and then direct that towards yourself.

It will feel unnatural in the beginning, because the resistance that arises thinks you need to shame or guilt yourself to change.

It has not worked in the past, so let’s try this instead.

Give it a week.

Let me know how it goes.

Have a great evening,

Edin