Do you regret not talking with her?

Hey man,

I got you - because this has happened countless times.

You see her, you like her, but then like a sudden ice age appearing

You freeze.

Body → Stuck

Brain → Terrified

So you talk yourself out of it…and it’s like you never learn.

It’s happened so many times, but yet you’re still here in that same loop

Desire→Guilt, shame and fear→Overthinking→Hesitate→Regret

Now…it’s time to turn this into a win.

Years ago,

I was with a friend and two girls at a cabin.

We tried MDMA for the first time.

If you don’t know, it’s a drug that can be called a love drug because you feel so damn good about yourself and the people around you.

Anyways, the setup is great, because one of the girl is so hot…

I want her, and as we are tripping on the drugs, I feel confident she wants me too.

We go outside and swim in the lake next to the cabin.
It’s evening, the water is warm, and our skin is buzzing with connection.
She looks at me — and I just know.
No games, no performance. Just raw, open desire.
We start making out. Heavy. Hot. Everything says yes…

And instead of staying in that moment,
I told myself I didn’t deserve this.
My stomach tightened.
My chest collapsed.
And I said, “let’s not continue.”

Why?

This was a girl who I found so damn attractive.

And here she is, horny and available.

So I self-sabotaged…

Telling myself that this is too good for me, and that I need to stop it now.

Then we go inside, and to make a long story short, nothing more sexy happens.

I had regrets about that moment for….a long time.

Honestly, if I could pay the fairy money to re-live it

then a part of me would say yes, because I’d still love to see her naked.

But the truth? I wouldn’t trade this moment.

Because it was the beginning of the end of the shame cycle.

That moment cracked something open in me.

See, this is not the first time it happened.

Many times during my teenage years I would say no when I meant yes and lose out on opportunitites with girls I was into.

And life would repeat itself because here’s a secret

Life doesn’t happen to you

if anything, it happens for you

to grow

and to grow, you need to go THROUGH the discomfort

and you will experience the same, until you’re ready to face it.

These days, regret doesn’t stick to me.

Not for years.
Not for months.
Not even days.
Sometimes hours. Sometimes minutes.
And sometimes — in those rare, powerful moments — I catch it as it happens.

That’s where magic begins.
The “lost opportunity” becomes an opening…
For something better.

So, how do you turn your regret into wins?

By stopping the cycle.

Let’s take a look at it again, shall we?

Desire→Guilt, shame and fear→Overthinking→Hesitate→Regret

Now, from the left, where is the problem starting?

Is it the desire?

No, that’s what’s wakes you up and gives you that rush of good feelings, like when you see a cute girl.

It’s the guilt, shame and fear

And today, we’ll practice overcoming that guilt.

Which is through a practice called Love&Light.

The reason it works is because instead of avoiding the feeling, you face it and in this way you stop the pattern.

It’s faster than your dating hacks, because they would just be covering up your pattern with surface level tips which would eventually bite you in the ass later.

It’s easy, but at the same time requires practice.

Eventually, you’ll be able to catch yourself before you start to regret it and that’s where you’re creating magic.

To help you with that:

I recorded a guided meditation to help you practice Love&Light.

Here it is:

Love and Light

Happy practicing!

PS:
If you want to work with me 1:1, (it’s still closed), but I’ve decided to open the doors in August.

Want in on the waiting list?

Just reply with LOVE and we’ll have a chat to figure if it’s your next best step or not.

Either way, thanks for your attention.

See you,

Edin