Approaching a girl in the metro

Hey dude,

today is my Silent day.

It means I’m offline, not working or even talking with anyone for the whole day

Just sitting in the present moment with myself.

It also means that I wrote this E-mail yesterday, meaning, that right now it’s the day before you’re reading this

But you’re reading this in the present

so, we’re both present.

Anyway, the topic I wanted to share with you is something that probably triggers you a lot.

Approaching a girl in a situation where there are a lot of people who could judge you, like in the metro.

So I’m going to share something with you that is very simple, yet it has turned my reality around.

There are moments when I feel like no one is judging me because I stopped the judgment myself.

This is what I mean:

I love to hug trees.

It grounds me, and it also puts social pressure on me because it’s not a normal thing to do.

So I love it. Double win

Now, there are two ways to do this

1. I hug it and feel anxious and fight it and just want it to be over

2. I hug it, relax. Feel the fear and give the part of me that thinks others are judging me love. Focusing on doing it out of love and being ok with anything bad happening to me that the mind is creating

When I choose #2, I always feel this surge of energy after. It’s a feeling of being free and approaching anyone after that is not only easy, it’s also joyful.

I’m able to do it without judgment, which then means that other people somehow (magically) are not judging me either

You’ve heard how your mind shapes your reality yeah?

It has something to do with that

Now, does this mean you have to hug a tree?

No.

(but srsly, try it)

You can do any activity that you genuinely want to do, and choose to do it out of love.

It takes a bit of practice, but once you let go and start enjoying the doing

man…

You’ll approach that girl in the metro and be sure that nobody is judging you.

Stay cool dude,
because you are.

Your biggest supporter

Edin