Approaching a girl does not have to make you feel guilty

Yo, what is up, my man

It’s late, and I just came out of a group call with my students

They’re a great group of guys, and the energy is so open and non-judgmental

Makes me feel happy.

Now, the guilt that you might feel by approaching a girl comes from one simple reason

Your perspective

because if you believe that she is going to feel scared by you coming up to her

you are imposing your reality on hers.

How many times have you been wrong?

You thought that a person would respond in one way

like when you share something very personal to you, that you feel ashamed of

and suddenly, it was not a big deal.

So it’s possible, that if you used to believe that it was somehow bad to approach a girl on the metro, on the way to work

then it’s also possible that it’s not true.

I invite you to change your perspective, and this is what I recommend:

• Figure out your limiting beliefs around approaching girls
  example: “Approaching girls is bad” and change it into a serving one

• Figure out your intention of approaching girls and see how you doing that will serve her.
  example: It can make her day. She gets validation and attention. She might go on a date with me.

• If the latter part (she going on a date with you) is not seeming valueable to you, then here is what I recommend:
  
  Write down a list of as many things as you can think of where you are better than 50% of the population of other guys.

  Mine would be, video games, freestyle rapping, boxing, communication, seduction and so on…

  Spend at least 30-45 minutes on this

  Then read through the list and realize that no other guy has this exact combination.

  For your exact dream girl (Not Hollywood, but someone that you genuinely feel attracted to and are aligned with), this exact combination would be 10/10

  
  

  Then go out and share this, knowing that you are indeed valuable, and by approaching that girl, you will feel like you are giving her something.

  
  And you know what?
  
  You are.
  
  Because you
  
  you, my friend
  
  are awesome.
  
  
  Best wishes,
  Edin