6 years ago I hesitated to approach her

Monday morning, I’m on my way to work

I go inside the metro thinking about a text message I sent the day before which I regretted

and as I’m about to think what I should’ve sent instead

My head is taken back

Wow

She’s beautiful

And same time ordinary, not this Instagram model

but more like the girl next door.

I’d love to go out with her, but there’s so many people inside the tram

I feel the hesitation, and as it builds up I tell myself I’ll do it another day.

I was thinking about it all morning at work.

Next Monday, I see her again and the same thing happens

She’s beautiful, different dress this time, and her hair so straight and pretty.

I look around, thinking about how I could speak with her using something in the environment as an opener

but there is nothing.

Again, I tell myself I’ll do it another time.

I spend all day regretting it.

Then, next Monday, I’m prepared.

I’ve told myself that I will do it.

Even put on my favorite underwear (because you never know right?)

As I enter the metro, I’m scanning for her

but something is different

she’s not there.

First I think she might be sick, but in the following weeks she never returned.

I had hesitated my way out of meeting a girl that I really liked.

Now, back into this moment right here and now

I see what I did wrong

and this lesson has helped me date girls that I’ve met inside grocery stores, waiting for the bus and in every other day-to-day scenario.

You see, the problem is not fear of rejection from the girl

it’s not even the fear of judgement from other people.

The actual problem goes deeper.

It’s within you.

When you were little, you were dependent on your parents or caregivers to survive.

This means that their approval was the difference between life and death.

It made sense to seek their approval, and not take any risks.

However, now you’re an adult.

But you’re still caught in this approval seeking pattern.

So when you see the girl, you hesitate.

Because if she says no, or if others disapprove of you, then it could mean death.

Well, not actually.

And that’s why logically you’re able to tell yourself how the worst thing that would’ve happened is her saying she has a boyfriend.

But that doesn’t help, does it?

Because in the moment, you’re totally absorbed by the emotions and not able to make that logical decision.

So what can you do?

It’s simple, but it does take practice.

The Inside-Out approach.

You give yourself the approval that you have been looking outside.

When you do, everything changes.

You see the girl and you don’t have that same freeze in your body.

Your mind doesn’t go crazy.

Instead you’re able to walk up and say hi.

Just like that.

Let’s practice it together.

You’ll get the framework to rewire your internal response so that you take action without flinching.

Normally, a session like this costs €500 (90 minutes).

But as a one-off, and a thank you for being a part of the newsletter, I’ll give it to you for €250.

You’ll learn the framework, we’ll practice together and you’ll get homework to take with you for that exact week.

So when you see the next beautiful girl, you’ll know what to do.

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Message me here when you’ve paid it, and we’ll schedule our session.

For your growth,

Edin