3 Approaching Techniques

I live in Barcelona

There is so many cute girls

and I don’t know how it is for you in your city, but not a day goes by without me seeing a girl I want to approach.

It’s like a double-edged sword because when I have an opportunity, but don’t approach

telling myself
“I don’t have time”
“I don’t need to”
“Maybe later”

I feel so bad afterwards

because I know that I’m actually just avoiding the discomfort.

But then,

I have been in this “game” for 12 years and learned a few techniques that works so well, they feel illegal to know.

And because I’m so grateful for you being a part of this newsletter

I’ll share them with you.

First, to get the most out of it, we need to understand why they work:

When you see a girl, and tell yourself that you don’t have time or you don’t need to.

It’s not because you don’t have time or you don’t need to.

It’s because you too, are avoiding the discomfort.

Which essentially comes down to fear.

Now, you might think you’re afraid of rejection and the fear of others.

But in reality, those things don’t matter as much as you think.

As an example, when you call your family, you usually don’t overthink what to say.

If you want to share something cool that happened that day, it’s not that difficult to do.

But when you see a girl, telling her about how you just saw her beautiful face and how that made your day - it’s difficult.

Now what would make it easier?

If she gave you the green light first, by for example coming over and saying hello to you.

Saying she likes you

then it would be easier, right?

That’s because you’re looking for her approval in order to do something.

This is called Apology Energy.

It’s unattractive.

Actually it kills it, and it’s the opposite of leading - which is attractive.

So in order to approach her in an attractive way - then here’s what you do

1. You see the girl, feel the desire to approach and then feel the fear (accompanied by the thoughts that want to excuse you)
   

2. Acknowledge the thoughts, the fear and be real with yourself. Say that “I want to do it, but I feel afraid”. This will already relieve some of the pressure.
   

3. Ask yourself this simple, but powerful question: “What do I really want to do now?” This might create resistance, so assure yourself that don’t have to do it, just be honest and it’s totally fine to not do it.
   

4. Done right, the real answer will arise and then… just do that:)

I know that was 4, but hey… I’m a dating coach not a mathematician!

If you have trouble creating this connection with yourself and enable this honest self-talk, then stay ready because by the end of the week I will share something that will help you with exactly that.

Have an amazing week,

Edin